This is a question that I ask myself NUMEROUS times every day. Something doesn’t work out like I intended…”so what?” Someone is completely rude, inconsiderate, disrespectful, etc…”so what?”
I have to constantly stop and ask myself that question because for the longest time throughout my life, I would immediately respond emotionally. It’s part of how I was raised. I was raised in a very “emotional” family – if you catch my drift. That became part of the programming, or conditioned responses, that would happen automatically if I didn’t make a conscious effort to change. As I got older and really became intentional about my growth. both personally and professionally, I began to see that the biggest hindrance was my tendency to respond emotionally to everything.
Stopping and asking myself “so what?” – allowed me to retake control of my responses.
When you’re presented with a difficult or stressing situation – ask yourself these questions:
1. How does this REALLY impact me?
2. How will my response impact the other person/people or people within earshot?
3. Is this something that will matter next week?
Asking yourself those questions (or questions similar to that) before you respond will do two things:
1. It will allow you the time to prepare an appropriate response, and
2. Automatically remove the emotion from the response.
Emotion acts immediately. It’s instinctive. Reactive. Explosive even. It’s also almost always met with an equal or stronger emotion. We can’t always control what happens to us, but we can absolutely control what happens within us.
Stop and ask yourself, “so what?” – I think you’ll find that whatever it is, isn’t as big as it first seems.
I’ll close this with my favorite scripture:
“And it came to pass…”