I often write about the importance of a positive self-image, and how it’s important to have confidence in yourself. But where is the line between confidence and arrogance? I’ll tell you. But first, let’s define the two.
confidence – (noun) the feeling or belief that one can rely on someone or something; firm trust.
arrogance – (noun) having or revealing an exaggerated sense of one’s own importance or abilities.
I believe there’s a fine line between the two, but it’s a very definitive line. Looking at the two definitions, it’s pretty clear. The definition of confidence focuses on other people. The definition of arrogance is centered around ourselves.
With that being said…the easiest way to determine the difference between confidence and arrogance is this: how do you make other people feel? Confident people make other people feel better about themselves. They have a very positive impact on most everyone they come in contact with.
Arrogance is exactly the opposite. An arrogant individual sends people away with a decreased self-worth. They feel like they’ve been talked down to, ridiculed, and have a much poorer self-image than they did prior to the meeting.
The key to confidence is humility.
“Humility does not mean you think less of yourself. Humility means you think of yourself less.” – Ken Blanchard
In John Maxwell’s upcoming book, “Sometimes You Win, Sometimes You Learn” he puts it like this:
“When we are focused too much on ourselves, we lose perspective. Humility allows us to regain perspective and see the big picture. It makes us realize that we may be in the picture, we are not the entire picture.”
Maintain a teachable spirit and a desire to learn and grow from your experiences, and no one will ever accuse you of being arrogant. Keep your focus on adding value to those around you, and you’ll naturally become the most confident you’ll have ever been in your life. You can’t stop it from happening.