You’ve heard me reference “Think and Grow Rich” several times by now, and over the past few months, I’ve been in deep study on the subject of “thinking.” Believe it or not, it’s something that not a lot of people do. Sure everyone has thoughts, but most people don’t pay any attention to them and just “go with the flow.” Few people actually make an effort to be intentional about their thinking, and subsequently suffer because of it.
Having said that, I also believe that everyone would like to be happier, healthier, and wealthier…it’s just that very few people are willing do what it takes to achieve any of those, and it’s because it’s not easy. If it were easy, we’d all have Bill Gates bank accounts, the Dalai Lama’s demeanor, and the body of that guy from the P90X infomercials. But we don’t. Because it’s hard, and we don’t do things that are hard. Or if we do, we don’t them for very long. The best example of this is your local fitness club. Try to find an empty treadmill on January 6th…then go back and try to find someone using a treadmill on April 6th. Working out is hard, so we don’t do it.
I’m still working all of this out, so bear with me, but I think you’ll appreciate the point here. I don’t know what I’m going to call this yet, but for now, we’ll call them the “3 W’s”
The first W:
I would venture to say that a majority of people are stuck here. Sure, they’d really like for their lives to improve, but for now…it’s simply a wish. “I wish things would get better.” “I wish I could find a job.” “I wish I wasn’t single.” I wish…I wish…I wish. What is a wish? A wish is a desire or hope for something to happen. It’s aimless and completely dependent on luck and circumstance. You have absolutely no control over a wish, and therefore little to no effort should be put here. Genies grant wishes. Genies don’t exist. See where this is going?
Here’s the next W:
Okay, we’re inching closer to something that can actually make a difference, but this still is not it. This is better than a wish, because at least with a “want” you can actually begin to see the effects of whatever it is in your life. If you want a house, you see the benefit of having a home and everything that it would mean for you to own your own home. You’re still not doing anything about it, but at least at this point, we’re not hoping a genie will appear.
And the final W:
This is where it gets good and things actually begin to happen. When you say the words “I will” you begin to speak things into existence. You’re no longer talking about dreams and desires, but rather stating your intention. Once you make that commitment to yourself, you’ve now taken a wish and/or a want – and turned it into a goal. Wants and wishes require an outside force to do all the work to make something happen. A goal is actionable objective that YOU now have control over. You now have the ability to create a plan of action and create results!
“Where there’s a will, there’s a way” – English Proverb
There’s a reason that famous saying doesn’t mention wants or wishes! It’s because they won’t get you anywhere or anything. Stop wishing and wanting and start doing! Creating a clear goal allows you to formulate a plan of action and begin taking the necessary steps to THEN go from “I wish” and “I want” to “I will” and “I have!”
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