Recently, I received a note from a friend about some of the hard times and frustrations they were facing, and it got me thinking about how common these feelings and emotions are. So much so, that I thought I’d share with you my response to their note. I’ve taken out anything that could possibly identify the person, but felt like it was a message that maybe you or someone you know might need to hear as well.
There are going to be struggles and tough times throughout the different seasons of our lives. There are going to be things that happen that seem completely and totally insurmountable, and that our game, in essence, is over. The important thing to remember is that it’s not over unless you quit.
You deciding to give up is the only event that can ever truly end something for yourself.
I’ve learned that it’s in these moments and situations that we have to “go back to the drawing board,” and not accept that things just are the way they are. The same laws that govern the universe apply to what we’re experiencing in our daily lives, and this includes the “law of cause and effect.” It’s one of the 12 Immutable Laws of The Universe and it basically says that nothing happens by accident. Everything has a specific cause that creates the experienced effect. It’s through this understanding that the REAL problem isn’t in our results, but rather in the process. In order to achieve something different than what we’re getting – we have to change how we’re doing what we’re doing, first. Too often, we accept that we have “to play the cards we’re dealt” and “that’s just the way my life goes.” In reality, life is only going that way because it’s what we are creating for ourselves and allowing to be so.
“In life, there are is no such thing as failure, there are only results.”
-Tony Robbins
My advice is two fold:
  1. Spend a day or two and really clear your head. Get out of the everyday elements you’re in now and go somewhere and do something different. Create an emotional change through physically breaking the cycle you’re currently in. As Dr. Wayne Dyer says, “when we change the way we look at things, the things we look at change.” Give yourself a change of scenery.
  2. Break down the processes that you’ve been going through to try to find the job you’re looking for and identify different approaches and different ways to do what it is you’re trying to do. Nothing changes if nothing changes. In order to being to see any kind of different result, a change must occur within the process, first.
Then repeat as necessary.
It may sound remedial, but it really works. You’ve heard me talk about this for quite some time – we are and become everything we think about. We create our own existence through where we spend focus most of our energy. Believing that it’s over is only putting time and energy into making THAT your reality. It’s shutting off your creativity, and not serving you.
This good news and bad news…bad news is the only way to change it is for you to create a shift in your own thoughts and belief systems and make the change yourself. The good news, however, is that you’re already equipped with everything you need to do exactly that!
The greatest gap in people’s lives is the gap between what we know and what we do with what we know. This isn’t the end, this the beginning of something bigger and better for you IF you’ll recognize it as such and make it so.
You have two choices here: step forward into growth or backwards into safety. What you do is up to you.